When Blogging Becomes Your First Love


 

 

At the beginning of the epic book of Revelation, we find letters to seven churches. Each letter begins with a message from the Sovereign Lord Jesus Christ – and each begins with the phrase, “I know.” With complete and full knowledge, the Ruling Christ looks at His Church and says, “I know your deeds… where you live… your afflictions.”

His words are both encouraging and chilling. He knows it all. Nothing is hidden from His sight. The good, the bad, the ugly. With razor sharp accuracy He discerns between reputation and reality, between intentions and actions, between good and bad motivations.

The letter to the church at Ephesus is one that is probably familiar to many of us. He commends them for their hard work and your perseverance, their discernment and stand for Truth, their perseverance and endurance through suffering. And yet… “I hold this against you: You have forsaken your first love.” (Rev. 2:4)

Forsaken our first love. The words haunt me.

The Ephesians had started out great. They were fighting the good fight! They were working tirelessly, enduring suffering, standing for Truth… and yet somewhere in the midst of their journey they lost their way. They took their eyes off of their Lord. They started to love something more than Him.

He called them to repent. Losing their first love was sin. Losing their first love was idolatry. If they failed to repent, their “lampstand” would be removed – they would lose influence in their world and cease to exist.

Doing the right thing for the wrong reasons turns the most noble ministry into an idol. Blogging, even when begun for the right reasons, can turn into idolatry.

Let me ask you some tough questions.

  • Is your blog lifting Him up, glorifying Him, showing His greatness? Or are you setting yourself up for adoration and receiving glory that is not yours to take? Who are your readers led to love – you, your children, or Christ?
  • What consumes your thoughts? Growing your readership? Selling ad space? Getting sponsors for conferences? …or speaking Truth and using whatever influence He has entrusted to you to point to Him?
  • Have you sacrificed your children, your marriage, the influence He has entrusted to you in your church and real-life friends on the altar of your blog? We will always sacrifice what is most precious to us to our gods.
  • Do you find yourself checking stats, jealously eying the readership of other bloggers, envying the influence God has entrusted to others? Do you fear anonymity and “smallness” more than you fear Him?

As bloggers we have a great privilege. We can sharpen one another, be real with one another, share Truth, model what it means to live whole-heartedly after Christ.

Don’t let your blogging image, even your “righteous Christian mom” image, become more important to you than our Lord Jesus Christ.

If we have lost our first love, it is time to repent. Perhaps some of us need to walk away. Perhaps some of us need to readjust. Perhaps some of us need to take stats and subscriber numbers off of our blogs.

If we do not repent, we might lose our influence all together. We might be leading countless others into the idolatry of self right along with us.

May God search our hearts and keep us true to Him. May we love Him above all else.

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Kristi Stephens is a follower of Jesus, seeking to love Him more and honor Him as a wife, mom, and teacher of God’s Word.  She wrestles with priorities in blogging like everyone else and prays that her writing would lead her readers to pursue a closer walk with the Lover of their Souls.  You can find more encouragement on your spiritual journey at www.krististephens.com.


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19 Responses to “When Blogging Becomes Your First Love”

Brooke McGlothlin April 12th, 2010 at 8:05 am

I actually waded into those waters a few months ago Kristi. Thankfully the Lord opened my eyes quickly and efficiently to my sin. I ended up taking a brief break from blogging to refocus and now things are much better. But that time cost me. I’m not talking about readership, although my stats did go down while I was away. It cost me a friendship that couldn’t withstand my sin. And my sin produced a sinful response from this person. I’m not sure I’m at fault for that, but I certainly wish it hadn’t happened. God does have a way of revealing hearts.

It did teach me this: While I love blogging and writing and all the wonderful friendships God has blessed me with in this community, the fact of the matter is that this world is not my IRL world. It should never take the place of those God has surrounded me with IRL. I’m still trying to discern whether or not internet relationships even CAN have the depth of IRL relationships. I thought they could at one point and have been learning a painful IRL lesson.

All that to say…writing is what I love to do…I know you feel that way too. But God taught me an important lesson about where I put my trust and in what I find my identity. It’s not on the computer (anymore). And I’m so thankful for this lesson.

Sorry for the book! Your post really resonated with me this morning!

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Rachel Pereira April 12th, 2010 at 8:28 am

Kristi ~ this is so convicting, and yet such an important reminder!! Thank you!
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Lisa writes... April 12th, 2010 at 8:39 am

Here from Brooke’s twitter link. Amen and amen! I too have struggled with the proper balance between blogging and real life. Like anything else–particularly anything else that is good–blogging can easily become an idol, as you have so carefully stated here. Good stuff. May our blogging be used for the glory of God and not our own…

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Marci April 12th, 2010 at 8:57 am

Ouch! That’s convicting! Doing the right thing for the wrong reason can happen so fast. I know I need to keep checking myself. Thanks for the heart-check!
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Courtney (Women Living Well) April 12th, 2010 at 9:19 am

I JUST blogged on this very topic on Thursday of this week. As I self evaluated, I came to the conclusion that yes, blogging takes lots of time BUT everything that is an investment in life takes lots of time. It’s hard work to have a good marriage, to be a good mommy, good homemaker or a good blogger! It’s all just plain hard work – so I strive, labor and work hard so as to have NO guilt and NO regrets!

I wrote lots more here about it:

http://womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com/2010/04/no-guilt-no-regrets.html

Jim Elliot said “Where ever you are, be all there. Live to the hilt every situation you believe to be the will of God.”

I’m living to the hilt Kristi with you – keep laboring for the gospel and let’s saturate the web with the truth of God’s word!
Sisters and Partners in Christ!
Courtney
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Amy April 12th, 2010 at 1:34 pm

All I can say is wow. This is an amazing post. I need to go back and read it again. Thanks for Sharing with us today!
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Mirinda April 12th, 2010 at 1:43 pm

What an amazing word. I too found myself in the same situation less than a year ago and stepped away from the internet completely, praying the Lord remove blogging/Twitter/FB totally if I was not going to really do it for Him- not me. There were a lot of prayers and waiting on my part! Thankfully He straightened me out :)
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Tara McClenahan April 12th, 2010 at 4:02 pm

Wow! I think I should keep this post bookmarked and read it every week! I am so grateful for women who speak truth! Big hugs!

Tara
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Julie April 12th, 2010 at 10:03 pm

Kristi, this is so well said, and I really appreciate the way you applied the truth to where all of us, your readers, are living. Thank you for sharing this today! I want to keep making my prayer be “search me and know me.”

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Jen April 12th, 2010 at 10:24 pm

Wow…just wow. I came to this post via a Twitter link and…well, wow!!

Your words hit home. Very, very good words for me to think on. I may have to print this out and stick it in my prayer journal. Such an amazing reminder of what *really* matters

Thank you for your honesty.

For HIS glory,
Jen

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tracie @ {tsj} photography April 13th, 2010 at 12:11 am

hard questions. honest answers. thank you for putting this in my heart!
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Chris April 13th, 2010 at 1:52 am

This is a great post… I think I will write and link you up!! Thanks…
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SomeGirl April 13th, 2010 at 2:07 am

Thanks for the soul check! I’m a few days away from 3 months of blogging and I’ve been praying and thinking about this topic a lot lately. I took stats off early on… I was too obsessed! I find ways to sneak and see who’s on with things like yesterday’s poll, but it helps a lot not having stats to look at. I want to glorify God in all that I do, but sometimes worry that I might be coming across as glorifying myself. Maybe it would help to have some accountability in the blog world… to have sisters (and brothers) in Christ who you can trust and will tell you if you’re starting to let other things try to outshine God (not that they can outshine him, of course). I never want to forsake my first love and put myself in front of him, but I do like blogging and want to have readers. It’s hard to figure out how that looks! Phew, that was a long comment… sorry about that! ♥ Michelle
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Lisa April 13th, 2010 at 1:52 pm

This post should be on the top of every Christian blogger daily reading list. It is so hard to lose focus, especially when our nature is to compare to others. God has given each of us a unique mission and purpose. For some, blogging is a ministry…for others a business endeavor. The problem is keeping them in proper order with His purpose at the forefront. Thanks for the encouragement to do just that.
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Mandy April 15th, 2010 at 12:41 am

I’m struggling in this same area right now, personally. I know God gave me both my blogs, as well as the opportunities to join such teams as Gather Inspirit and Exemplify. I am honestly struggling with the balance between writing what He wants me to write, and still managing to do the other tasks He has given me, and do them WELL. Thanks, Kristi, for the encouragement in the right direction!
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Jennifer Sikora April 17th, 2010 at 8:55 am

Thanks for posting this reminder. I went through the checklist and I am glad to know that I was beginning to start that, but thanks to your reminder, I can now say I am back to blogging the way I started out…to share with others what God lays on my heart and not worrying about growing my blog.

Thanks!

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